What Does Islam Say About Oral Sex?
Sexual Positivity:— In their original forms, the religious philosophies of Taoism, Confucianism, Tantrism and Islam are sex positive.[1][n. 1] However Muslims only became culturally corrupted once they came into contact with European civilisations during the imperial and colonial age; in other words they have now become largely sex negative.[1] An example of such deep rooted cultural corruption can be illustrated by a Muslim visitor to Australia, specifically an Indonesian Muslim who visited Australia where attitudes in modern times are liberal (sometimes considered too liberal); he was shown to have been completely ignorant on what Islam actually preaches despite claiming Islam forbade almost everything regarding sex.[2] The Islamic beliefs on sex are, however, said to be "inherantly human and natural".[1] There are no prohibitive laws within Islam that forbid sex, especially oral sex;[3] indeed the Qu'ran only contains two prohibitive sexual practices.[4] These are having sex during the menstruation period,[4] and anal sex.[5] Additionally, several schools of Islamic thought are of the opinion oral sex is allowed in Islam (these include the Hanbalis, Malikis and Shafi'is; however even if these schools of thought were of the opinion that is isn't allowed they would be incorrect in their interpretations of Islamic literature, because the Qur'an makes no explicit mention of oral sex being haram; and neither do the hadiths).[3] Before delving deeper into Islamic rulings it is first imperative to understand terms such as "wajib" (or "fard"), "mustahabb" (or "mandub"), "halal" (or "mubah"), "makruh", and "haram".[6] |
What the Scholars Say:— These terms respectively mean "obligatory", "recommended", "permitted", "disapproved", and "forbidden".[6] It is also relevant that Islam says not to make things which are halal, haram.[7] According to these schools of thought it is firmly considered as part of the "permitted" category, it is considered at the very least permissible; the renowned Muslim scholar Yusuf al-Qaradawi was said to have stated that "Muslim jurists are of the opinion that it is lawful for the husband to perform cunnilingus on his wife, or a wife to perform the similar act for her husband and there is no wrong in doing so. But if sucking leads to releasing semen, then it is blameworthy (makruh), but there is no decisive evidence [to forbid it]".[3] However oddly in many Muslim and Arab societies, there is widespread disapproval of the practice.[3] This is all down to cultural approved sexual practises, as opposed to it actually being based on what Islam actually says.[3] Another scholar of Islamic jurisprudence, Ali Jum'ah, who is from one of the most ancient universities in the world (Al-Azhar University in Cairo), has said that licking, sucking and kissing the spouses genitals are permissible under Islamic law, as long as it gives the spouse sexual satisfaction.[3] However negative attitudes still persist, for example according to writers (and not scholars) have claimed "it is known to be a practise of dogs and the disbelievers";[3] however this statement is wholly invalidated as sex is also a practise of dogs and unbelievers, as is pregnancy and other forms of sexual gratification. All in all, it is entirely wrong to call it haram point blank. |
What's So Good About It?:— Oral sex on a women is particularly advantageous to both men and women according to Islamic authors.[3] Some women even prefer cunnilingus, as the tongue is both "versatile" and an "extremely effective" tool.[3] It is also very effective for men who suffer from erectile dysfunction, or worry about sexual fatigue, or time constraints.[3] One thing to note however is that many women are self-conscious of their genitals; issues such as the imperfect look, smell and taste will often put them off sex; in other words, if the husband shows a lack of enthusiasm during the act.[3] Saying things like "I love how you taste" can heighten the sexual experience in contrast.[3] The erotic 10th century Islamic writer Abu al Hasan ibn Nasir al Katib had even made a point to emphasise how pleasurable oral sex is on a woman in his "Encyclopedia of Pleasure"; he tells of the fictional story of Hubba al-Madaniyyah who discovered it for herself accidentally (though it is a rather deliberately outrageous comedic metaphorical story).[3][8] The story goes that she had had a bath, and came across an innocent puppy who got excited to see her genitals.[3] Before she was aware of what the puppy was doing, it began licking her vagina.[3] It became so pleasurable to her that she lowered herself, and when she reached orgasm she could not stand up, even though she wanted to.[3] As she could not raise herself from the power of the orgasm the "helpless animal had died from heavy pressure".[3] This story is however not an endorsement of sexual intercourse with animals but a humourous anecdote on the power of good oral technique (in literature this anecdote is categorised as "black comedy").[3][9] Despite this, oral sex is still seen as a foreign Western import in the Islamic world.[10] When it comes to oral secretion ingestion, it is another matter, however.
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Qur'anic Verses On the Treatment of Women
Surah | Ayat | English #1 | Classical #1 | Translation | Classical Arabic |
2 | 223 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 2, Verse 223 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 2, Verse 223 | Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish and put forth [righteousness] for yourselves. And fear Allah and know that you will meet Him. And give good tidings to the believers. | ![]() |
2 | 187 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 2, Verse 187 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 2, Verse 187 | It has been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to your wives [for sexual relations]. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so He accepted your repentance and forgave you. So now, have relations with them and seek that which Allah has decreed for you. And eat and drink until the white thread of dawn becomes distinct to you from the black thread [of night]. Then complete the fast until the sunset. And do not have relations with them as long as you are staying for worship in the mosques. These are the limits [set by] Allah , so do not approach them. Thus does Allah make clear His ordinances to the people that they may become righteous. | ![]() |
4 | 19 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 19 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 19 | O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good. | ![]() |
4 | 22 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 22 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 22 | And do not marry those [women] whom your fathers married, except what has already occurred. Indeed, it was an immorality and hateful [to Allah ] and was evil as a way. | ![]() |
4 | 23 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 23 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 23 | Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful. | ![]() |
4 | 24 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 24 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 24 | And [also prohibited to you are all] married women except those your right hands possess. [This is] the decree of Allah upon you. And lawful to you are [all others] beyond these, [provided] that you seek them [in marriage] with [gifts from] your property, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse. So for whatever you enjoy [of marriage] from them, give them their due compensation as an obligation. And there is no blame upon you for what you mutually agree to beyond the obligation. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Wise. | ![]() |
4 | 25 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 25 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 4, Verse 25 | And whoever among you cannot [find] the means to marry free, believing women, then [he may marry] from those whom your right hands possess of believing slave girls. And Allah is most knowing about your faith. You [believers] are of one another. So marry them with the permission of their people and give them their due compensation according to what is acceptable. [They should be] chaste, neither [of] those who commit unlawful intercourse randomly nor those who take [secret] lovers. But once they are sheltered in marriage, if they should commit adultery, then for them is half the punishment for free [unmarried] women. This [allowance] is for him among you who fears sin, but to be patient is better for you. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. | ![]() |
6 | 120 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 6, Verse 120 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 6, Verse 120 | And leave what is apparent of sin and what is concealed thereof. Indeed, those who earn [blame for] sin will be recompensed for that which they used to commit. | ![]() |
7 | 33 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 7, Verse 33 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 7, Verse 33 | Say, "My Lord has only forbidden immoralities - what is apparent of them and what is concealed - and sin, and oppression without right, and that you associate with Allah that for which He has not sent down authority, and that you say about Allah that which you do not know." | ![]() |
17 | 32 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 17, Verse 32 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 17, Verse 32 | And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way. | ![]() |
24 | 33 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 24, Verse 33 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 24, Verse 33 | But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty. And those who seek a contract [for eventual emancipation] from among whom your right hands possess - then make a contract with them if you know there is within them goodness and give them from the wealth of Allah which He has given you. And do not compel your slave girls to prostitution, if they desire chastity, to seek [thereby] the temporary interests of worldly life. And if someone should compel them, then indeed, Allah is [to them], after their compulsion, Forgiving and Merciful. | ![]() |
30 | 21 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 30, Verse 21 | Qur'an (القرآن) Chapter 30, Verse 21 | And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. | ![]() |
Qu'ranic Verses On the Treatment of Women:— نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ ۖ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنفُسِكُمْ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُم مُّلَاقُوهُ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا النِّسَاءَ كَرْهًا ۖ وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا وَلَا تَنكِحُوا مَا نَكَحَ آبَاؤُكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا مَا قَدْ سَلَفَ ۚ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَمَقْتًا وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا حُرِّمَتْ عَلَيْكُمْ أُمَّهَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُكُمْ وَأَخَوَاتُكُمْ وَعَمَّاتُكُمْ وَخَالَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُ الْأَخِ وَبَنَاتُ الْأُخْتِ وَأُمَّهَاتُكُمُ اللَّاتِي أَرْضَعْنَكُمْ وَأَخَوَاتُكُم مِّنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ وَأُمَّهَاتُ نِسَائِكُمْ وَرَبَائِبُكُمُ اللَّاتِي فِي حُجُورِكُم مِّن نِّسَائِكُمُ اللَّاتِي دَخَلْتُم بِهِنَّ فَإِن لَّمْ تَكُونُوا دَخَلْتُم بِهِنَّ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَحَلَائِلُ أَبْنَائِكُمُ الَّذِينَ مِنْ أَصْلَابِكُمْ وَأَن تَجْمَعُوا بَيْنَ الْأُخْتَيْنِ إِلَّا مَا قَدْ سَلَفَ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۖ كِتَابَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ ۚ وَأُحِلَّ لَكُم مَّا وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَن تَبْتَغُوا بِأَمْوَالِكُم مُّحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ ۚ فَمَا اسْتَمْتَعْتُم بِهِ مِنْهُنَّ فَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً ۚ وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا تَرَاضَيْتُم بِهِ مِن بَعْدِ الْفَرِيضَةِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا وَمَن لَّمْ يَسْتَطِعْ مِنكُمْ طَوْلًا أَن يَنكِحَ الْمُحْصَنَاتِ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ فَمِن مَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُم مِّن فَتَيَاتِكُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ۚ وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَانِكُم ۚ بَعْضُكُم مِّن بَعْضٍ ۚ فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ ۚ فَإِذَا أُحْصِنَّ فَإِنْ أَتَيْنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ فَعَلَيْهِنَّ نِصْفُ مَا عَلَى الْمُحْصَنَاتِ مِنَ الْعَذَابِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِيَ الْعَنَتَ مِنكُمْ ۚ وَأَن تَصْبِرُوا خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ وَذَرُوا ظَاهِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَبَاطِنَهُ ۚ إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَكْسِبُونَ الْإِثْمَ سَيُجْزَوْنَ بِمَا كَانُوا يَقْتَرِفُونَ قُلْ إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ رَبِّيَ الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَالْإِثْمَ وَالْبَغْيَ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ وَأَن تُشْرِكُوا بِاللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يُنَزِّلْ بِهِ سُلْطَانًا وَأَن تَقُولُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَالَّذِينَ يَبْتَغُونَ الْكِتَابَ مِمَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ فَكَاتِبُوهُمْ إِنْ عَلِمْتُمْ فِيهِمْ خَيْرًا ۖ وَآتُوهُم مِّن مَّالِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي آتَاكُمْ ۚ وَلَا تُكْرِهُوا فَتَيَاتِكُمْ عَلَى الْبِغَاءِ إِنْ أَرَدْنَ تَحَصُّنًا لِّتَبْتَغُوا عَرَضَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا ۚ وَمَن يُكْرِههُّنَّ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ مِن بَعْدِ إِكْرَاهِهِنَّ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ |
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- ^ Islam even tolerates abortion.
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- Richard A. POSNER (30 June 2009). Sex and Reason. Harvard University Press. p. 67. ISBN 978-0-674-04225-4.
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